How To Get Sex On The First Date
If some people learned the secrets of how to get sex on the first date, they'd probably never go on another second date, but sex on the first date can be a mysterious beast. Sometimes both people seem to understand that it means that they'll never see each other again after coitus, unless they awkwardly bump into each other at a bar or a mutual friend's party, but other times sex on the first date can be an impetuous beginning to a passionate commitment. Whether you're reading this because you finally got the love of your life to agree to go out with you, and you cannot wait another moment to seal the deal, or you just feel particularly hot and bothered tonight, here are a few tips on how to get sex on the first date.
- Don't act desperate. Even if it's been months, or even years, and you're legitimately worried you may have forgotten how to actually have sex, for goodness sake, don't let your date suspect this. You should be acting so cool and sexually confident that your date might wonder whether you actually woke up in someone else's bed that morning.
- Have eyes only for your date. Sustained eye contact is sexy and makes your date think you're actually interested in her, even if you're not. If you want to go home with the hot bartender, stare at the hot bartender. If you want to go home with your date, look at your date.
- Act interested, even if you're not. No matter how hot you are, if your date fears that you two will have nothing to talk about the moment the act is done, it's unlikely she'll go home with you.
Establish physical contact. She's human; she likes to be touched. Being touched a certain way makes her think about sex, which makes her more likely to want to have sex. Start slowly with non-threatening touching. The arm, the shoulder, and the small of the back are all places you could establish initial contact during conversation or if you're guiding your date through a bar or along a crowded sidewalk. If you perceive that this contact is appreciated, you can move on to touching hand, or knees, if not, retreat gracefully. Losing the first battle does not mean you'll necessarily lose the war. Continue to make eye contact and act interested.
- Don't rush it. Remember, the object is to have sex on the first date, not shove your tongue down her throat at a bar. Finding yourself in hot and heavy action in a dark corner or on the dance floor could actually be a bad sign. If she wanted to sleep with you, she'd be suggesting you leave together, not stay in a crowded bar.
The good new is, even if you don't master the intricacies of getting sex on the first date right away, you could always ask her out on a second date.