You blew it, you know it and now all that’s left is to figure out how to get your girlfriend to forgive you. What you need to do to fix the problem might not make sense to you, but it does make sense to your girlfriend. Since you’re the one who messed up, you’ve got to do what she needs you to do to make it right.
- Listen to her. She’s going to want to talk about your transgression–a lot—and not just the mistake itself but also her feelings about the whole situation. This isn’t throwing things up in your face, although it may seem that way to you. For her, it’s a way of working through the problem. If you’re going to get your girlfriend to forgive you, listen. Once you understand why she’s doing what she's doing, you understand her a little better. That will pay off in the long run.
- Say you’re sorry and mean it. If you aren’t sorry for how it happened, you can at least be sorry that it happened. Understanding the subtle difference there can help you display the appropriate contrition. You don’t have to specify why you’re sorry; just being sorry is enough. What’s important to your girlfriend is that you acknowledge the problem and regret it. Oh, man, do you regret it.
- Do something to make it up to her. Make dinner for her, buy her a little present or a greeting card, take her to a chick flick without moaning about it. It doesn’t have to be something major, a small gesture will do. What’s important is to show her you’re thinking about her and care about her feelings. You do care and she knows it, it’s just that sometimes you have to do something concrete to show you do, especially when you’re trying to get her to forgive you.
- When you’re hoping for your girlfriend’s forgiveness, there’s good touch and bad touch. Good touch is giving her an affectionate hug to say you're sorry, bad touch is trying to get her to forget the situation and have sex. Get the forgiveness first, then suggest the sex.