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How To Give Her An Orgasm

By: Tanya Joel

Break Studios Contributing Writer

A woman's body may prove to be a bit mysterious or even intimidating for an unexperienced lover, but you can use these tips to learn how to give her an orgasm.  Every woman is different, and each will react uniquely to different types of stimulation.  However, each and every woman has areas on her body that are ultra-sensitive to touch.  You can learn how to give her an orgasm by finding what she likes the best and then stimulating her properly.

What you'll need to give her an orgasm:

  • Lubrication
  • Vibrator
  • Dildo
  • Your hand

How to give her an orgasm:

  1. Manual clitoral stimulation.  For most women, clitoral stimulation is how they achieve orgasm.  The clitoris is located above the vaginal opening, and becomes exposed when you gently pull back the skin.  You'll know when you see it because it looks like a small flesh-colored button.  To stimulate her clitoris, you'll want to use lubricant on your middle finger to create a smooth moving surface.  Begin by slowly rubbing her clitoris with a light touch.  When she begins reacting with moans, that is your clue to speed up the pace.  Gradually begin increasing the pressure and the speed until she orgasms.  You can also lick or suck her breasts during the stimulation, as most women find this very pleasurable when they are highly aroused.
  2. Oral clitoral stimulation.  Oral sex yields best results when the focus is placed on and around the clitoris.  The more you practice, the better your technique will become, but when you're first learning how to give her an orgasm through oral stimulation, you'll want to concentrate on keeping the area moist.  Your own saliva will work just fine.  Begin by kissing and caressing her thighs and pubic region, and then work your way to her clitoris.  Slow tongue strokes will gradually get her going, then you can work up to fast 'flicks' of the tongue and increased pressure.  You can also finger her while you suck and lick her clitoris once she becomes highly aroused to give her an orgasm.
  3. Stimulation by way of sex toys.  You're only human, and your hand and mouth WILL get tired.  When this happens, you can resort to using sex toys.  Vibrators are a very effective way of giving her a quick and intense orgasm, and are used directly on the clitoris.  Dildos resemble the size and shaped of a penis, and can work to vaginally stimulate her.  There are combination toys that are both dildos and vibrators, and are an amazing way of getting her off when you're too tired to do it yourself.
  4. G-spot stimulation.  The elusive g-spot is a difficult area for most men to find, as it is located inside a woman's body and can't be seen.  To find the g-spot, have her lay flat on her back and insert your longest finger inside her vagina.  With your palm facing upwards, go all the way in to her vagina and reach just below her pelvis bone.  When she begins to feel the urge to urinate, you've found her g-spot!  Don't worry, the urge will go away for her.  Once you've located the g-spot, begin to rub it slowly and then speed up your pace.  She may find it helpful to tilt her pelvis, as this makes it much easier to reach this hidden treasure.  A g-spot orgasm is more intense than any other type of orgasm, so be prepared for her to make a lot of noise when it happens!
Posted on: Nov. 22, 2010