How To Give Oral Pleasure

By: Nya Bruce

Break Studios Contributing Writer

If you're looking to take your sex life to the next level, then knowing how to give oral pleasure to your wife or girlfriend is the way to go. For many women, even if a man isn't generally a stud in bed, having mastered the art of cunnilingus will guarantee that he's an unforgettable lover. Making the effort to up your oral skills is beneficial to you as well and might even turn her into more of a tigress in bed as well. Regardless, knowing how to give a woman oral pleasure is an artful skill you can ill afford to be without.

Get in the right position. There's nothing worse than a cramped neck putting an early end to your oral lovemaking. Find a position that works best for you and your comfort. Consider laying her on her back on a flat surface. That includes the bed or the sofa; heck, you can even try the kitchen table, by candlelight! (Make sure the candles aren't on the table!) Position yourself between her legs on your belly or hook your arms beneath her knees, drag her to edge of the bed and take a seat on a comfortable chair or stool. The more comfortable you both are, the longer you'll be able to dedicate to the task at hand.
Anticipation makes it all the sweeter. Don't dive right in when giving your lady oral pleasure. Instead, place teasing kisses up her legs, the backs of her knees and inner thighs. Treat her body as if you're sightseeing a new exotic location for the first time. Lingering kisses on your part will help to ensure that when you make it to your ultimate destination she'll be squirming and wet with anticipation and excitement.
Tell her she's beautiful. Women not only like the deed, but they need to hear your encouragements as well. Many women have a sense of insecurity when it comes to their bodies, so the mere fact that you're between her legs about to pleasure her orally is a big deal. Let her know that you like what you see.
Be gentle, and start with kissing. This is still more teasing and anticipation building, but at this point you shouldn't linger overly long at her outer lips. A few kiss and the slide of your tongue along the seam of her lips and she'll be more than ready for you to show her the next course in her banquet of pleasure.
Give her clit its due. For her, this is the highlight of the show. Still, don't lick too hard at first. Go gently and experiment to see what turns her on. Do not start out by lapping. While using your tongue on her clit, vary the pressure, using her response as your guide to lick faster or harder.
Use your lips and don't forget your fingers. Suck her clit with your lips, once again using her responses as a guide to continue or to go back to using your tongue only. Lick a finger (or two) or moisten it with her juices. Use your fingers to thrust in and out of her vagina for extra stimulation.
Don't rush it. It's called the art of giving oral pleasure, not the task thereof. You're creating a masterpiece of sexual pleasure, not performing a duty. Her orgasm is a journey, not a destination. In layman's terms: she'll know if you're just trying to get it over with, and few things ruin the mood more efficiently. Remember, you're sightseeing, not commuting!