How To Give A Tantric Sexual Massage

By: Amin El-Gazzar

Break Studios Contributing Writer

Knowing how to give a tantric sexual massage is one of the best ways to really connect or reconnect with your lover. Touch is one of the most important things one human needs from another. A hug between friends, a kiss goodnight to a young child, the soft strokes of a lover’s hands are all things that connect us together. To give a tantric sexual massage you must first understand the concept of “kundalini.” Kundalini is a yoga term that at its most basic means the coiled and dormant seat of desire. A tantric sexual massage is a way to awaken kundalini to bring those desires to life and truly connect with your lover on a deeper level.

  1. Communication. Communication is important to any relationship. You need to be able to trust your partner with your heart, mind, body and soul. A tantric massage can still be a sexual sensual experience between casual lovers, but between two people who are in love it can be explosive.
  2. Set the stage. A sexual tantric massage is all about being relaxed and present in the here and now not focused on the kids, house or outside worries. To do this you should create an environment that is conducive to bringing you into the present and focusing your mind. The easiest way to do this is to find a place that is 100 percent safe and comfortable. Consider soft lighting, scented candles and soft music in the background. You may also want to have something to drink like a good wine and maybe a few sensual snacks, strawberries and whipped cream are good choices.
  3. Clothes or no clothes. A sexual tantric massage is based on all of the senses and the emotional connection that is created. To start, you should wear either comfortable loose fitting clothing or nothing at all. Consider a blind fold and how much fun it can be to slowly uncover the parts you want to touch.
  4. Begin the massage. Have your partner lie down on their stomach and just lightly touch your lover all over. Gentle strokes of various lengths and pressures are fine. A sexual/sensual tantric massage is not about rubbing out the tense muscles but more about the sensuality of pure touch. Touch everywhere. Most people do not realize that even the underside of the arms and the backs of the knees are sexual hot spots. You may use your hands as well as your tongue to touch and taste as much as both you and your partner are comfortable with. But no talking, this is all about touch.
  5. For the receiver. A sexual tantric massage is about being in the present and connecting with your lover. Your job is to clear your mind, relax and just feel. Concentrate on the sensations your lover is creating within you and relax. Do not worry about where or when the next touch will be just enjoy the sensations.

A sexual tantric massage is a great way to connect or reconnect with your lover. Remember to breath slow and deep, gaze into each other’s eyes and listen to the slow, even beat of two hearts as one.

Posted on: Dec. 09, 2010