How To Handle Your Controlling Girlfriend
Learning how to handle your controlling girlfriend requires time, patience, and the ability to know if the relationships needs to end. Control issues are unhealthy for any relationship and can become very draining on you. A controlling person is insecure and having a relationship with one will often result in your own misery. If your girlfriend is controlling then this article will give you some helpful advice on how to deal with the issue.
- Tell your girlfriend how you feel. One way to handle your controlling girlfriend is to sit her down and tell her exactly how you feel. Many people who are controlling don't even realize the extend of their actions. Give her examples of how you feel she is being controlling. Tell her what you want and expect. She may become defensive or upset. Hopefully, she will want to change so that you will feel comfortable around her. If you are willing to stay with her through the process then this will require you to be patient and supportive as she works on her issue.
- Watch for signs of improvement. If your girlfriend is serious about changing her controlling ways then you will know it by her actions. Watch to see if she is putting in effort to allow you to have some control in the relationship. Keep the communication about this issue open so that you both feel comfortable talking about it. Let her know when you notice her making improvement and thank her. It isn't easy to stop a habit especially ones that you never knew you had.
- Determine the relationship's future. Either way, you will need to determine if the relationship is something you wish to save. Some people who have control issues are too set in their ways or oblivious to their behavior or disagree that they need to change. If your girlfriend falls into this category then you need to decide if you can continue to live with her controlling ways. Often times in this scenario, ending the relationship is the best option.