For a behavior that seems to go against (ahem) the flow of nature, people sure are concerned about anal sex. It can certainly be fun and different, but the people who engage in it have to both be prepared well in advance to have a sensual and enjoyable time. Now, be aware, there's a big difference for having anal sex with women, and actually convincing a woman to have anal sex with you. Actual anal sex techniques will only get you so far.
Learning how to have anal sex with women may be the one of the best things you do to enhance your sexual relationship. Once a very taboo topic, anal sex is now a very common sex practice. A lot of women are hesitant to try anal sex because they've heard that it can be very painful. They also may have tried it in the past, and had a bad experience. When done correctly, anal sex can be a very pleasurable experience for both partners. Here are a few tips to having anal sex with women.
- Use lubricant - Now is not the time to just "wham, bam, thank you ma'am". Unlike the vagina, the tissues of the rectum do not produce lubricant when a woman becomes sexually aroused. If you try to have anal sex without using lube, it will be extremely painful and could cause serious damage to the rectum. Try using a lubricant that is silicone-based as it will provide the smoothest results.
- Go slow - Foreplay is very important to the anal sex process. There are two sets of sphincter muscles around the anus, the internal and external. The external muscles are the ones that produce the "pucker" effect of the anus. The internal muscles are about half an inch inside the anus, and are involuntary muscles. This means that the woman cannot control whether or not these muscles relax. In order to get her body to loosen up, she must be relaxed. Kiss her neck, perform oral sex, or do whatever it takes to make her relax.
- Fingers First - This is a very important step. Lube up a finger, and gently rub around the area of the anus. Gently, push your finger into her anus. Stop if she complains of any pain. You should be able to feel whether or not her internal sphincter is relaxed or contracted. You can also use a butt plug, booty beads, or whatever anal toys you may have. When you are able to insert a couple of fingers without pain, proceed to the next step.
- Don't rush it - Make sure your penis is very slippery by applying lubricant. Go slow. Gently rub the tip of your penis around the anus. When she says she is ready, you may proceed to slowly slide it in. Stop immediately if there is any pain, and apply more lube. You can always insert a finger again to loosen up her muscles.
When done correctly, anal sex can be a very pleasurable experience for both partners. If you take anything from these tips, just remember to go slow and use lubricant. Good luck, and enjoy!