How To Have Better Oral Sex

By: Christine Gray

Break Studios Contributing Writer

Do you want to know how to have better oral sex? An integral part of any relationship is knowing how to please your woman. Here are a few simple steps you can follow to help yourself and your partner learn how to have better oral sex.

  1. Communicate. Most people aren't terribly comfortable talking about oral sex, especially if they haven't known their partner very long or if they're afraid their partner will take offense if they ask for something different or offer to do something different, but, the truth is, it's almost impossible to figure out how to have better oral sex with your partner if you're not even willing to talk about it. If you're intimate enough with a person to have sex with them, you should be able to talk about giving and receiving oral sex with them. In fact, studies show that the way couples talk about sexual issues with each other, and whether they react in a positive way or a negative way, is more indicative of whether a relationship will last than how couples communicate about non-sexual issues. Tell your partner what you want, whether it's something you want done to you, or something you want to do to them, and then ask your partner what they want, and listen openly and generously.
  2. Do some research. Porn isn't just entertainment, it's educational. If you are serious about learning how to have better oral sex, what better way to learn than to consult the experts? Just remember that the average woman (or man) isn't going to be able to perform on the expert level.
  3. Experiment. After the talking and the watching, it's time for the doing. The only real way to learn how to have better oral sex is to experiment with different techniques and figure out which ones work for you and your partner. Just make sure your partner knows that you respect her comfort zone, and that things will stop immediately if she's uncomfortable, regardless of whether she's the one giving or receiving.

There's no step-by-step foolproof guide to how to have better oral sex, because what constitutes good oral sex varies wildly from one individual to another. But, if you do the work, you'll learn how you and your partner can have your best oral sex.

Posted on: Jul. 19, 2010