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How To Have A Happy Marriage

By: Isabell Hue

Break Studios Contributing Writer

By keeping these tips in mind, you can learn how to have a happy marriage. Every married couple wants to be happy. This may seem impossible, but it is not. There are many things that a couple can do to make their married life happier.

  1. Be nice to your mate. This may seem like an obvious answer, but it is important. It is easy to get nit-picky and complain about your spouse’s little faults, but this kind of behavior is not conducive to a happy marriage. Remember that little things can make a big difference. Be nice by saying please and thank you, speak respectfully, discuss important things, do things for your mate and try not to do things that your spouse doesn’t like. Trying to be nice as much as possible will encourage a happy marriage.
  2. Deflate arguments. People know what makes their spouse angry and what can deflate that anger. Maybe it’s humor or maybe it’s a sincere apology that eases the tension. Whatever it is, do it! This doesn’t mean that you should push aside your problems. Take time to cool down and then talk your problems over calmly.
  3. Don’t play the blame game. Pointing fingers at your spouse will probably upset them. When discussing problems use “I” statements rather than “you” statements. For example: Don’t say, “You never spend time with me.” Instead try, “I want to spend more time with you.” Don’t say, “You are so messy.” Instead try, “I am bothered when you leave your clothes on the floor.” Don’t say,“You are boring. You never want to go out.” Instead try, “I would really love it if we could go out this weekend. What do you think?”
  4. Spend time together. Busy couples usually don’t have a lot of time together so they have to make a point to create time. Set a night dedicated to spending time together. Go out on dates regularly. Eat at least one meal together daily. These little suggestions will strengthen the marriage bond and make couple happier together.

A happy marriage can be achieved when both partners love and respect each other. When they work together to avoid arguments and talk about things calmly their marriage will be happier.  

Posted on: Nov. 05, 2010