How To Have A Healthy Relationship

Want to know how to have a healthy relationship?  It takes work like anything else important that you want in life.  Someone don’t just find themselves in a “healthy” relationship.  It takes work.  It takes effort.  It takes commitment. 

In order to understand what a “healthy” relationship is, we must first understand what an actual relationship is.  A relationship means being “connected or related” to someone—and to be connected with someone; means that we understand each other on a certain level.  

That being said, a healthy relationship requires the following:

1. Strong Communication:  In order for a relationship to be called healthy, conversations where either party can feel safe saying what they need, without being ridiculed or judged is one of primary importance.  If either party feels threatened or feared about approaching the other, there is a problem, therefore there is no connection, and therefore no real relationship. If you don’t have clear lines for communication, work on it, or no that that person is not for you.
2. Both Needs are Being Met: A healthy relationship is formed when both parties respect and consider each other needs. We consider our partner when making any decisions about their common purpose. We do not choose our own selfish needs over our partners if we know that our partner needs something different. We pause and realize that in some cases, we need to compromise what we want for what the relationship needs. Having said this, we do not compromise our own safety or sanity for anyone! 
3. Be Responsible for Your Own Happiness: This is a biggy!  Some people seem to think that they are in a loving healthy relationship if their partner does everything they want for them.  Nope. Not at all!  In a healthy relationship there must be a sense of "self" maintained. To do this, we need to be responsible for our own needs and happiness first. Go to the gym when you need without waiting for your partner.  Make plans with friends without your partner every now and then and be sure to always have someone else to confide in, instead of loading it all on your partner to solve. 
4. Working on Intimacy: People, this is very mucho important.  More often than not, the bedroom sets the mood for the home.  Little or no intimacy is detrimental to the foundation of any romantic relationship.  Intimacy is a crucial part of the relationship, for it is healthy.  It is another way that we allow people in and break down our walls to express who we are.  Make time to connect to your partner intimacy.  Find out their sexual needs and honor them.  Make time for lovemaking, not just a succession of quickies!  Every woman wants to be loved up.
5. When the going gets Tough, Don’t Run: It is so easy in today’s society to throw away a relationship when the going gets tough. Life happens, someone loses a job, a parent or goes through bad health.  Lets be honest, these circumstances don’t bring out the best in us when we are going through such life changing things.  So be patient.  Do things for yourself and allow your partner space. 

Getting through these kinds of things often brings us closer at the end of the day.  But we must be willing to go through the process and learning curve in order to get there.

A healthy relationship doesn’t mean that we always act healthy as individuals, but when come together we have a respect that it is no longer just about us.  It is about team work… and don’t forget the fun!