How To Have A Healthy Sex Life

By: Tiffany Garden

Break Studios Contributing Writer

A healthy sex life is an important part of many relationships, so learning how to have a healthy sex life should be a high priority for many of you. The definition of a healthy sex life means different things to different people, but generally a healthy sex life has both parties pretty happy about the booty that they're getting in the bedroom. Building a healthy sex life can take some time, but the benefits will help you out long term.

  1. Spend time discussing your sexual preferences. Sex and sexual preferences might seem like an embarrassing topic of discussion outside of the heat of the moment, but you aren't going to know what your girl really likes unless you ask her. Sure you can judge certain preferences by her reactions to your bedroom action, but how can she react to something you don't do? If she has a preference that isn't getting met in the bedroom and you don't talk about it, you might have resentment build down the road.
  2. Work her preferences into your bedroom play. Prove that you're listening during your sexual talks and do what you can to accommodate her wishes. On some kinks and fetishes you might need to compromise between what you're willing to do and what you aren't. While you do want to make her happy, don't do so at the cost of your own happiness. If there's a sexual act you just can't perform, see if you can find a sex scene or porn video that caters to her fetish.
  3. Work in some variety. One of the biggest problems facing a healthy sex life is pure boredom. When you're with the same person in a long term relationship or marriage, it's almost impossible to avoid the sexual aspect of things from getting quite stale. Do what you can to keep up the variety, whether from trying new positions or incorporating kinky props like sex toys, blindfolds and other objects into your sexual play.
Posted on: Oct. 30, 2010