How To Have Kinky Bondage Sex

Spice up your sex life by learning how to have kinky bondage sex. Bondage is the act of using restraints for sexual pleasure. There are different degrees of bondage sex and this article will go over the basics to help get you started. So get ready for some kinky bondage play.

  1. Have an open discussion with your partner about bondage. This isn’t the kind of sex that can be sprung on your partner as a surprise or as a first time with someone. Before doing any kinky bondage act you need to talk with your partner. This needs to be an open and honest conversation with no judging on either side. Bondage can mean different things to people and people find different things attractive about it. A good way to start the conversation is to tell your partner what aspects of bondage interest you. Then ask them their thoughts on your wishes and if they have any of their own. Other things you should talk about are boundaries, who will be dominate (Some couples enjoy changing this around but you should pick who will be dominate at least for your first attempt in having bondage sex.) and set a safe word.
  2. Gather the toys of the trade. Many people are intimidated by the idea of going to a sex shop. The thought is embarrassing to many people. Another option is to shop on-line for your bondage sex toys. Don’t surprise your partner with toys that first few times you have bondage sex. They should be aware of what items you wish to use during sex.
  3. Tie the submissive partner up. Depending on your comfort level you can use various things. Many people choose not to start out with metal handcuffs or other restrains that many people commonly associate with bondage sex. A good beginner item to use for tying your partner up is a scarf or tie. Make sure that the submissive partner is tied loosely so they can easily break free. There are many positions that the submissive partner can be tied up in. The easiest to start out in is with the submissive person on their back with their hands bound in front of them so they can be rested above or behind their head. Stick to only the sexual acts that you discussed with your partner before hand unless both parties agree on other things.
  4. Bind the submissive partner in other ways. Tying up is not the end of the fun. Other things include having the submissive partner wear a blindfold or even a gag. These things can be purchased at an adult sex store or you can use items you have around your house. Scarves and ties can also be used for these things.
  5. Discuss with your partner after you have had bondage sex. Many people like extra alone time with their partner after very kinky sexual acts. This is a good time for emotional intimacy and to talk about your feels towards bondage. Listen carefully to any concerns your partner might have and also express and that you have. Both partners should be comfortable with the current level they are at before trying anything new with bondage.

 

 

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