By keeping a few basic guidelines in mind, you can learn about how to have mature oral sex. Oral sex is a great way to initiate vaginal sex with your partner, and is also a great way to enjoy relations with a woman who is not yet willing to have vaginal sex with you.
- Participate in foreplay. As with all types of oral sex, it is important to use foreplay in order to get the woman warmed up for oral sex. Start by kissing her on the mouth, neck, earlobes, and nipples. Slowly stroke her body as you do this, gradually moving your hand towards her vagina.
- Carefully touch the clitoris. The clitoris is found inside of the outer folds of the vagina, and typically appears to be a small hood. Rub this area very gently, watching the reaction of the woman as you do so. If she appears to be enjoying herself, continue doing what you are doing. If she appears to be in pain, decrease the amount of pressure you are placing on the clitoris.
- Start licking and kissing the clitoris. As when using your hands, do this gently at first, and then gradually increase the amount of tension placed on the clitoris as her enjoyment increases. While you can also kiss and lick the outer folds of the vagina, spend most of your time focused on the clitoris. Women need to have this part of their anatomy stimulated in order to reach orgasm. If you are unsure about what to do, ask your partner.