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How To Have Polyamorous Relationships

By: Sherrie Hurd

Break Studios Contributing Writer

It is rather simple to know how to have a polyamorous relationship, while some aspects are seen as complicated. If you are aware of the basic rules of the lifestyle and agree with them, then the love life is quite free in its thinking and bonding. Many individuals think that it is not really possible to love more than one person and have mutual multiple relationships. There are many ways in which you can successfully have a polyamorous relationship.

  1. Find a community of like minded individuals. There are so many organizations and clubs that cater to this lifestyle-more so than you would think, actually. Polyamorous relationships are growing in popularity and present many outlets to understanding the situation. In these communities, they provide plenty of educational material which can help you to understand the lifestyle that you are embarking on or are simply interested in.
  2. It is very important that all parties get along. Whether it is three, four or more partners involved in the relationship, it is important that all of you feel love or mutual respect for one another. Since polyamorous relationships include emotional attachment as well as sexual, this sets it apart from what society calls "swinging". Unlike the polyamorous relationship, swingers are usually a monogomous group of two individuals who simply wish to experiment with a third party or another couple. In the polyamorous relationship, the stronger the emotional attachment between all parties, the better the outcome to happiness.
  3. Be aware of all rules of the public community that you live in. Some places really frown upon polyamorous lifestyles and marriages cannot occur between three or more individuals. Do your research before even embarking on this sort of lifestyle. This will save you time and unwanted frustration.
  4. Keep the same company in friends. It is better to have a majority of friends that share the same or similar beliefs for the most part. It is perfectly fine to have various friends of many beliefs, but you will find that you will run into many disagreements and heartaches when trying to school unbelievers on your way of life. If you are without access to a community of polyamorous individuals, then putting an ad in magazines or online for other people who share your beliefs is something you might want to consider.

Polyamorous relationships, like many other 'outside the norm' situations, can be frustrating but very rewarding. Understanding the pros and cons of this lifestyle is the best thing to do. If you make wise decisions, you can find that being in a polyamorous relationship can truly be an interesting experience.

Posted on: Nov. 13, 2010