How To Have A Sex Discussion With Your Partner

By: Tiffany Garden

Break Studios Contributing Writer

Communication is key in keeping your sex life healthy, so learn about how to have a sex discussion with your partner. Sexual communication opens up so many avenues of intimacy that you just won't be able to achieve by going on autopilot in the bedroom. When you talk about your preferences you'll find out more about your partner, and you can work this into all of your sexual encounters. Some men are very timid about opening up about sex, whether you want to talk about your fetishes or your past partners. You can work sexual discussions in to many different situations, as long as you can relax and not be embarrassed about it. After all, the chick has already seen your dick if you're talking about sex, what is there to be embarrassed about?

  1. Pick the right time and place. Depending on the nature of your sexual discussion, this could be in the middle of foreplay or during the normal course of the day. When you pick the right time and place for the discussion, it helps for you and your girl to be completely relaxed during the conversion. The more relaxed you both are, the more likely it is that you are going to open up completely and be totally honest with each other.
  2. Cover everything that you think is important during the sex conversation. If you want to talk about fetishes, then go over everything that pushes your sexual buttons. If you need to discuss past sexual experiences then try to get everything in there. Don't chicken out and leave important parts of the conversation out.
  3. Make a list of what you want to talk about if you think you might forget something. Writing down all of the information will help order your thoughts before you spring the sex conversation on your lady friend.
  4. Keep it serious without getting too intense. You can have a completely serious conversation or sprinkle in some lighthearted fun, as long as you acknowledge that you shouldn't pass the whole conversation off as a joke.
Posted on: Oct. 30, 2010