How To Have Sex With Your Girlfriend
If you are in your first sexual relationship, you’re probably looking for tips on how to have sex with your girlfriend that deepens your relationship and brings you both pleasure. Just the fact that you are seeking advice is a good sign; it means you are committed to making your sex positive and the best that it can be. These intentions are the best starting point for satisfying sex. Here’s where to go from there.
- Communicate openly. Talking with your partner about sex is the single most influential way to make sure you both have pleasurable sex. Chances are your lady has had sexual experiences before you, whether intercourse or masturbation. Because of this, she will know what she likes or thinks she might like. Communicating will build trust between you and help you skip the distant, confused sex that many newbies get stuck with early on.
- Take it slow. It might feel like taking it slow when you have finally come so close to having sex is just too painful to think about, but don’t worry. Taking it slow doesn’t mean abstaining, it just means taking the time it takes to make sure your partner is on the same page as you are. Women take notoriously longer to warm up before sex than men do. Foreplay is important and while you probably don’t need it to get turned on, sex following adequate foreplay is more pleasurable for both parties.
- Be prepared. Don’t fall for the belief that having sex supplies on hand (lube and condoms in particular) makes the sex any less fun or pleasurable. In fact, having these things handy will allow you and your partner to relax more. Lube is particularly important if it is also your girlfriend’s first time having sex since she will probably need some help opening up.
- Have fun. It sounds cliche, but the more relaxed you are during sex the better it will be for both of you. Don’t spend too much time worrying about your performance. If you are too nervous to relax, opt for talking with your partner about your fears (and your hopes) to lighten the mood and build trust. Don’t rush it. When you’re both ready, it’ll happen.