How To Have A Threesome

Having another partner in the bedroom is the dream of many couples, though many don't have a clue how to have a threesome. The topic can be touchy, and if it is approached in the wrong way or if the relationship is not right, may even cause the end of an otherwise happy pairing. 

1. Assess your situation. If your relationship is on the skids or if your partner is not sexually adventurous, you may need to reconsider your dream of turning a threesome into a reality. Further, if you're currently not having a consistent amount of sex, you may need to wait for better timing.
2. Talk to your significant other about sexual fantasies. Open up a dialog of communication, and see if he or she also has a desire for a threesome. If the other person does not talk about bringing in another partner, you can touch on the subject, but don't apply too much pressure. Allow them to think it over as long as they feel necessary. The only way to have a threesome is if all parties are comfortable.
3. Be gentle when approaching the topic. Don't be lewd in your descriptions of what you'd want out of a threesome, and do not force your partner to imagine being with another man or woman if they are not interested. Drop the subject if they show discomfort, but let them know that you understand their choice.
4. Start talking about potential third partners. Do this only once they've decided that it's something they'd like to pursue. Talk about the type of man or woman they'd like to be with, and put in your input. Be open minded, as if you force someone on to them, you may not have a threesome at all.
5. Talk about the long-term. What will happen when the third partner goes home? Make sure you're on the same page in your relationship. Is the encounter just about sex, or are you looking for a friend that can have a threesome at any time? Talk this over and start narrowing your options.
6. Look around for a trusted friend that may be interested, or start scouting swingers bars. Consider looking through the personal ads on websites and in the newspaper. Be safe and meet the person a few times before you agree to allow them into your bedroom. 
7. Make sure that there's chemistry between all partners involved. If two are ready and one is not, do not rush sex between the three. Go only as fast as the slowest partner agrees. 
8. Have fun. Don't make your threesome a drama-filled evening, and plan your next threesome when you and  your partner are ready. Talk the experience over for a couple of days, just to make sure that you and your partner are comfortable. Discuss how to have a threesome again, and what you would do differently.