Getting back to dating basics lets the average Joe discover how to keep from getting nervous on a blind date. Is it wise to put a best foot forward? Sure! But how should you balance it with not looking like you’re trying too hard? What makes matters even more uncomfortable than the average first date is the fact that you probably never even had a conversation with the lady or laid eyes on her.
That being said, discovering how to keep from getting nervous on a blind date may actually only take you three short steps:
- Mind your manners. Walk up to the door and ring the bell (don’t just honk the horn); open the doors and let her walk through first; avoid four-letter words and questionable jokes; most importantly: turn off the cell phone. Presenting yourself as a well-mannered individual goes a long ways to putting her—and you—at ease. A disapproving look over a rude gesture or some earthy language can derail your suave demeanor; play it cool by being on your best behavior.
- Plan the outing. Learning how to keep from getting nervous on a blind date requires you to get in the driver’s seat and take on planning the outing. Make sure you know her likes and dislikes! Keep it public so that there is no discomfort from the lady (and a quick escape for you, if needed). Pick the restaurant, make the reservations, have a second reservation on standby, secure tickets to the show or activity and take care of all the ancillary details. Being in control makes it instantly easier to not get nervous.
- Dress comfortably and be yourself. Figuring out how to keep from getting nervous on a blind date may be as simple as liking yourself and wanting a woman to like you for who you are (not who you pretend to be for a short time).
- As you are discovering how to keep from getting nervous on a blind date, remember that by keeping it in public you also have the quintessential backdoor in case the chemistry just does not work out. Excuse yourself after dinner, citing an early day at the office or some work that needs to be done, and head home. See, it pays to be in control of the date arrangements!