How To Kiss On The First Date

By: Blaise Lucey

Break Studios Contributing Writer

So you want to learn how to kiss on the first date. To do this, you first have to know the ideal locations for it: taking a walk, watching TV, watching a movie, walking her back to her apartment and so on. Try not to kiss in a public place, in broad daylight or at a restaurant. All of these places are awkward and they put your date on the spot. Once you've located an intimate spot, then you want to go through this step-by-step guide to kiss on the first date:

  1. Breath check. If you can, eat a mint or brush your teeth, or at least don't eat anything gross before you kiss your date. This isn't so much for the date's sake as it is for yours. Having a clean, minty mouth will subconsciously make you more confident.
  2. Conversation check. How are you two talking? How close are you? The sound level should be intimate and playful.
  3. Body check. No, not that kind of body check. To kiss on the first date, you need to know if your partner is interested in you. Try holding one of her hands to show that you are interested.
  4. Face check. This is one of the most important steps. Your date will constantly look up at you or look at your face if she wants to kiss you.
  5. Lip check. Make sure your lips are wet, but not dripping. Watch it, though—everyone knows what you're up to when you get to this step.
  6. Eye check. When you make eye contact next, go for it. If your date is too shy to make eye contact with you, gently tip her chin towards you and go for it. You've seen that romantic gesture in movies, now you should do it yourself.
  7. Go for it. If you have these signs, you can't stall. Don't wait around because it's more comfortable. You want to kiss on the first date, not talk your way into oblivion. The worst thing you can do is think about it.
  8. Go for the repeat. The first kiss should be little more than a peck. You want to see how your date reacts. If you pull away and you maintain eye contact, go back for a longer kiss. It's always better to test the waters before just going all out.

Remember to never, ever be too forceful with your kissing. Be sure that your date is also interested in kissing on the first date. If you're unsure, you have to follow the steps above to check—slight physical contact, the intimacy of conversation, and constant eye contact are all very good signs. Nowadays, a kiss on the first date isn't too wild an idea. The most embarrassing thing that can happen is if you both want to kiss on the first date and you don't because you are both too awkward to do it.

Posted on: Mar. 17, 2010