Curious about how to know if you are dating? Relationships are strange creatures that show up unexpectedly and often leave you confused. When you start taking someone on casual dates or find yourself in a friends-with-benefits situation, it's hard to know if and when the relationship will take a more serious turn. One day you may notice your date is acting differently, or realize the two of you are no longer trying to see other people. If you haven't reached the point where you're comfortable asking the question point-blank, look for these clues to see if your love life has just taken a new turn.
- Analyze the time you spend together. New couples spend a lot of time together, from going on dinner dates to simply watching a movie at home. The crucial factor is not that you spend a lot of time together, but how you spend it. When she constantly comes over just to hang out, or you routinely run errands and other mediocre chores together, it may mean that you are dating.
- Evaluate your living situation. If she spends the night at your place often, or vice versa, it could be a sign of a more serious relationship. One way to know if you are dating is to think about how many nights she comes over and whether she ever sleeps over, even if you don't plan on having sex. When she starts leaving personal items at your house, it's a good sign that you are dating.
- Determine if she's seeing other people. If she mentions other people she's seeing or talking to with the potential of being more than friends, it's a good sign that you are not dating. Try bringing it up casually during conversation and ask her whether she's still looking around or not. When she's ready to commit, she won't need to seek other potential partners.
If you've scoped out the situation and you still don't know if you are dating or not, you have to take a deep breath and just ask. Many times people won't ask whether or not they are dating because they're afraid the other person will think they're moving too fast. If the signs all point to the fact that you are dating, then you need to know for sure. Bring it up casually and if she says you're not dating or she's not sure, then let her know how you feel and whether you're comfortable seeing where the relationship goes without labeling it as a dating relationship yet. Chances are that after you bring the issue up the first time she'll let you know when she's ready to take the next step and call it an official relationship.