How To Know When To Break Up With Your Girlfriend

By: Lori Boyd

Break Studios Contributing Writer

Are you wondering how to know when to break up with your girlfriend? It can be hard to know if you are just going through a rough spot as a couple or if this is the beginning of the end. There are a few things you can consider to help you decide to stay or go. You want to base your decision on the whether or not this is a potential long-term relationship or a relationship that has run its course.

  1. Is there still good will between you and your girlfriend? If you are picking on each other, not being supportive or finding ways to prolong arguments instead of being motivated to work them out, this could be a sign of future problems.
  2. Are you or your girlfriend hiding things from each other? Do you find her stopping mid-sentence in a phone conversation when you enter the room? Ask yourself if you are being completely honest with each other. A relationship in which either person is not being completely honest with the other is at risk.
  3. Is your girlfriend pressuring you about something you don’t want to do? One way to decide whether to break up with your girlfriend is to examine if you are ready to move in together, get married or meet her parents--whatever it is that she is pressuring you about. You might not be willing to take a big step, but if you aren’t willing to move ahead in any way in the relationship with your girlfriend, it signals you might not be in this for the long haul.
  4. Do you find yourself looking for your next girlfriend? If you are already imagining what it would be like to move on and are looking at other women as potential girlfriends, you may have decided to break up with your girlfriend but have not admitted it openly.
  5. Do you respect your girlfriend? You might be attracted to her, think she is fun and enjoy her company, but if you don’t respect the person she is, staying in a long-term relationship isn’t really feasible. If you can’t understand her values, don’t like the way she treats her family or can’t imagine her as the mother of your kids, move on. You both deserve respect.

Although breaking up is rarely an easy choice, you have to decide what is right for you. She deserves someone who is the right match for her as well. Once you have made a definite decision to break up with your girlfriend, the best way to handle the breakup is to act quickly and be honest and kind.

Posted on: Oct. 10, 2010