How To Know Your Girlfriend Is Over Her Ex

Learn about how to know your girlfriend is over her ex when she might be showing signs she’s not. What a dilemma if you have found a great girlfriend that you have a lot in common with, that you feel you can share anything about yourself with her, but you have one problem. You fear she may not yet be over her ex which can pose a real problem for your relationship if she’s not. Do you dare confront her about your suspicions or do you trust your girlfriend when she says she’s over her ex?

1. She has severed all ties with her ex. Regardless of what you might hear, you cannot continue a friendship with your ex. It’s hard enough trying to maintain a friendship with someone of the opposite sex without complicating matters. So, if she has a past relationship with him that she may not have necessarily wanted to end, then that would definitely be asking for trouble. If you are single, then it’s okay to be friends with your ex, but if you are in a new relationship, you would have to completely cut off your association with that person as you could cause serious problems in your new relationship.

2. Your girlfriend doesn’t constantly talk about why her and her ex broke up. If she’s not always talking about her ex and the problems they had, that’s a good sign she is over him, but if she is treating you more like a shoulder to cry on or asking your opinion about why you think he did whatever he did to cause them to split, your girlfriend might not be quite over her ex.

3. She doesn’t try to compare you to him. When you and your girlfriend have a disagreement, she never says how her ex acted the same way you are acting or talk about certain character traits you have that made her so fond of her ex. If she tries to compare you to him, she is showing she is still hurt by the break up and that she possibly might still have feelings for her ex.

4. The relationship hadn’t just ended when you started dating your girlfriend. Was the break up fairly new when you started dating her? Whether male or female, everyone needs time to heal and process it all before getting into a new relationship. If she doesn’t heal first from the break up, this might be more of a rebound type situation and you may run the risk of losing her to her ex. If that’s the case, you may have to suggest time apart until she knows what she really wants, because you are not going to let her string you along.

5. Can she openly talk about her ex without sounding emotional or bitter? Ask her about the relationship and what happened to cause it to end and see how she responds. If your girlfriend seems okay answering your questions and she doesn’t seem to be on the verge of tears or angry about the breakup, then there’s a good chance she has put it behind her and moved on with you.