How Long To Date Before Saying I Love You

Knowing how long to date before saying "I love you" can be very tricky and a little scary. The exchange of such powerful words has to be done at the right moment, but who really knows when the right moment is? You don’t want to say "I love you" too soon and run the risk of not having those three beautiful words said back to you. Some people may react poorly to hearing you say "I love you" because they may feel you are moving too fast, but here are some things you may want to look for to see if the time is near to tell that special person “I love you.”

  1. The first date would be too soon to tell someone you love them. Even if you believe in love at first sight, don’t chance it. There are people that have been married for years that vowed that just after their first date they were in love, so it's possible. Just don’t say it after the first date; get to know that person better first. It’s like gambling; you might win big, or you might lose if that person thinks you are moving too fast.
  2. On the second or third date you may feel you are head-over-heels in love with this person. You just want to explode and shout out to the world how much you love this person. Of course, the only person you may want to shout it to may not be ready to hear it.
  3. It has now been two weeks since the first date. The two of you are inseparable, every free moment is spent together and when apart you can’t stop thinking about the new love in your life. Your heart beats faster every time she enters the room.
  4. It's your one-month anniversary and things are going smoothly between you and your significant other. You have so much in common, you feel the relationship is growing. You have even met each other’s families and you love them to; the timing couldn’t be more perfect. You know you are now ready to profess your love for this person, but hold on one minute.
  5. The first argument. Regardless of how great a relationship is, at some point you will have an argument or disagreement. There is nothing wrong with that; it keeps the relationship balanced and healthy, as long as it doesn’t happen to frequently. After that first disagreement, are you still looking at that person with the same loving eyes? Maybe you are having second thoughts about telling that person you love her.

The point is, whether you have been dating for one month or six months, saying "I love you" to your partner is a personal decision to make. Are you in love because you feel you are in the perfect relationship? That’s an illusion; there is no such thing. Does that person give off the vibe that she feels the same way? No one wants to say “I love you” and not hear it back. You will know when the time is right, when you can’t hold it in any longer and you want that person to know how you truly feel about her. One last thing: if you want to stay on the safe side and avoid scaring that person off, you can ask her how she feels about you first. She may surprise you and tell you she loves you too, then you can tell her how much you love her, and everyone wins!

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