Okay: so you’re tired of being on the outs with your chick but you don’t know how to make your girlfriend happy after a big fight. Well, it’s not going to be easy. When a woman is very upset there are not shortcuts. You’re going to have to put a lot of thought and effort into making it up to her.
- Apologize sincerely. Ditch the backhanded apologies and the generic catchalls. These are just going to make things worse. Really think about what was said during the argument and address her specific concerns. Don't say “I’m sorry you got so pissed off,” or “Sorry for whatever it is I did.” Do say something like “I’m sorry I didn’t consider how you felt about me hanging out with the boys every weekend.”
- Get her a gift or plan a special date. Show her you care by putting in some serious effort. Forget picking up a cheap bouquet of flowers at the supermarket. That’s easy. On the other hand it takes a little extra mileage to pick up her favorite flowers at a florist, write a handwritten card hand deliver the trinket to her at work yourself. Remember the bigger the fight the more energy you need to expel to make your girlfriend happy. If you screwed up royal try picking her up on her lunch break and treating her to a romantic picnic. If you live together have candles and a warm bath ready when she comes home. You can even go as far as spelling out “I’m sorry,” in rose petals on the bed.
- Address the actual problem. This is the trickiest part but it’s what you have to do if you don’t want to have the same fight over and over. If she says you don’t spend enough time with her, make definite plans to do something together. If she says you don’t listen the next time she starts yammering stop whatever you’re doing and give her your full attention. If she’s pissed you keep texting some other female, just stop. If you’re unwilling to change the behavior in question, consider if being with your girlfriend is really what you want.