How To Make Your Marriage Work

By: Kelly Cannon

Break Studios Contributing Writer

It's never too soon or too late to learn how to make your marriage work. It doesn't matter if you've just popped the question or if you've been married for years, there are always things to learn and improve on. It's said that around half of all marriages end in divorce. If you want to make your marriage successful and prevent becoming another divorce statistic, these tips on how to make your marriage work are a good start.

  1. Common interests: While there are times that opposites seem to attract, the most successful marriages are usually between people who have interests and activities that they share. Spending time together in shared activities helps bring couples closer together.
  2. Communication: To make your marriage work, a couple must be able to communicate. When one or both partners have a problem discussion their feelings or expectations, resentment can grow causing serious rifts in the relationship. It's so important that both partners feel able to express their concerns without fear of recrimination.
  3. Compromise: It's difficult to make your marriage work when one partner insists on always having their way and the other always has to give in. Compromise helps each partner feel worthy and valued in the relationship.
  4. Cooperation: It's all about helping each other out in order to make your marriage work. Whether it's helping around the house, sharing childcare or just having each other's backs, a healthy relationship depends on sharing and cooperation. There's an old saying that a marriage isn't a 50/50 situation, that both couples need to give 100%, and it's absolutely true. Always plan on giving more than your partner, and you'll never be disappointed.
  5. Conflict Resolution: It's bound to happen. Even the happiest couples can have real problems and conflicts pop up in their marriage. What's important to make a marriage work is learning how to resolve conflicts in a way that is healthy and mutually agreeable. Sometimes this may include seeing a counselor or clergyman either separately or together. If you do decide to seek outside counseling, don't feel that you've failed. It's a very intelligent step in maintaining a strong marriage.
Posted on: Nov. 08, 2010