How To Move On From Horrible Relationship
You've been burned by a girlfriend gone bad, and although all of your buddies say it's time, no one has any constructive advice on how to move on from horrible relationship. Saying that you want to move forward is the easy part, but what's difficult is getting your feelings in step with what your mind is saying. Admitting that you have feelings isn't the end of the world, no matter what anyone says. If they weren't affected by their emotions, there would never be any relationships to participate in, let alone move on from. A horrible relationship, especially one not initially recognized as such, leaves scars on your ability to trust and date other women and haunts you with memories of the good times. Eventually, you'll have to leave the pining at the door and move on from the horrible relationship that has such a hold on you.
- Let go of the past. She may have been as sweet as an angel when you met, but by the time it was over, she had traded her wings for a shiny pair of horns. It's time to take that first step to move on from that bad situation by realizing that the past is the past for a reason. You can't go back and make her who she used to be no matter how much you wish otherwise.
- Don't rush it. It doesn't matter how many times one of your friends tells you it's time to move on, if it isn't time it isn't time. Rushing to replace one relationship with another is the equivalent of you begging to hurt either yourself or the poor woman you've used as a substitute.
- Not every woman is the same. Another huge step in moving on from a horrible relationship is to recognize that not every woman that you meet is the one that you've left. As stated before, a bad relationship leaves scars on how you perceive the opposite sex. Not every woman is going to do or behave as your ex did and shouldn't be pre-judged against those unflattering standards.
- Not every date is the beginning of a relationship. Realize that just because you've gone on a date, it doesn't mean that you have to mark off your calendar for the next six months. Treat a date as a date to be enjoyed for what it is, and if it develops naturally into something more, then you can feel comfortable knowing that it's a genuine thing.
- Don't repeat the same mistakes. Up to this point, we've been assuming the blame lies at the feet of your once significant other. However, if that isn't the case and your horrible relationship has more to do with you than her, the best way you can move on is to learn from your mistakes and not repeat them with someone new.
- Open the door to possibilities. The last, but by no means least, step is to open your heart and mind to the possibility of a new relationship. You've relegated the old one to the past, moved at your own pace and realized that every woman that you come across isn't a clone of she-whose-name-we-shall-not-speak, and now it's time to throw open the door and make yourself available to a new healthy relationship.