How To Pick Up Hot Girls

By: Gautam Jayanthi

Break Studios Contributing Writer

Knowing how to pick up hot girls is not as difficult as many men have been led to believe. A lot of guys spy a gorgeous female specimen from across the room and freeze, not knowing what to do next. Or worse, they'll get a great conversation going but falter in getting her from the bar back to his place. With a few simple steps and a dash of self-confidence, you will see that anyone will be able to learn how to pick up hot girls.

  1. Be yourself. More than anything else, hot girls hate it when a guy is being disingenuous to them. Just because you think she'd be more impressed with you if you were an astronaut, there's no reason to pretend that you are one. Lie about yourself and you'll see that it's a quick way to end up going home alone. 
  2. Relax. A lot of hot girls can smell fear on a guy a mile away. There's absolutely no reason to tense up and get nervous around a hot girl. By relaxing, you'll find it easier to be funny and generally likeable around a gorgeous lady. If you get nervous, just take a deep breath and imagine that you're catching up with an old acquaintance for the first time in a few years; everything will be fresh but it's not like you two are meeting each other for the first time. Talk to her as you would to that person and you'll do just fine.
  3. Be confident, but don't be a schmuck. Everyone seems to think that jerks have some special knowledge of how to pick up hot girls. This is far from the truth; the reason that a lot of lovely ladies associate themselves with reprehensible gentlemen is that those guys have an astonishing amount of self-confidence. Having faith in yourself and your abilities shows a woman that you're a go-getter who stops at nothing to achieve his goals. However, gross overconfidence will give you the air of pretension and make you positively repulsive to any females in the surrounding area, so be sure not to overdo it.
  4. Don't deify the women. Besides keeping yourself grounded, it's important to remember that hot girls are people just like yourself; they have faults and follies of their own. They are far from perfect and should not be treated as if they are such. While trying to pick up hot girls, most men make the mistake of treating the gorgeous ladies as if they are some other worldly beings sent to us to right wrongs and make the world a generally better place. Doing so causes the man to become a doormat and thus lose any and all likeability he had in the women's eyes. Don't be this guy; treat the ladies well, but don't put them on a pedestal.
  5. Appeal to her friends. People are, by nature, social creatures. We turn to others for advice and take solace in the words of our companions. Hot girls are no exception to this rule and, in fact, help solidify it. Making nice with a girl's friends is the best and easiest way to make yourself known to her as a potential partner; she'll see that her friends see appealing qualities in you and trust their collective opinion. Plus, her friends will be more likely to say good things about you and accentuate your good qualities to her, which will do nothing but help you bring her home.
  6. Keep your spirits up. In trying to pick up hot girls, you're going to get turned down. There's absolutely no reason to deny it. By telling yourself that not every single attempt will work out, you're not setting yourself up for failure, you're keeping yourself grounded. Instead of letting each loss weigh down on you, wipe off your brow and learn from it. Reevaluate what you could've done better and reapply this knowledge for your next attempt. 

There isn't some secret method to learn how to pick up hot girls. All you need is to be yourself and have confidence in your abilities. Talk to the lovely ladies as you would to anyone else, and there's no reason that you won't succeed.

Posted on: Jul. 19, 2010