How To Pleasure Women

By: Tiffany Garden

Break Studios Contributing Writer

One of the most important things you can learn in life is how to pleasure women. When you have a lady properly taken care of in the bedroom, everything else just falls into place perfectly. All women are different when it comes to their bedroom preferences, which can make it difficult when you are attempting to figure out exactly how to pleasure her. This problem is compounded by the fact that many women may be too shy to tell you exactly what they like. You can start out with a few women pleasuring basics and then adapter them to the situation as needed.

  1. Work on your foreplay skills. Women are slower to heat up in the bedroom than men, typically, and help in the foreplay department is always desired. Foreplay can mean vastly different things to women, from kissing and making out to taking a 10 inch dildo and filling her with it. Until you get to know her likes and dislikes better you are going to have to play it by ear. The kissing and cuddling tends to be a good starting point, and you can move on from there to fondling and fingering.
  2. Experiment with positions. Each woman's vagina has its own special shape, depth and size so different positions are going to affect women differently. Tried and true is tried and true for a reason - missionary does give you good control and thrusting depth for many women, but that can get real old, real fast. Even just switching things around for the lady to be on top can be a big change, let alone more complicated positions. Don't pigeonhole yourself into one specific position.
  3. Explore her kinks and fetishes. This is probably something you're going to do in longer term relationships over one night stands, since it's pretty hard to get an idea of what kind of kinky things a girl is into if you're just going on a one night stand. Whips and chains might be the standard thing you think of with kinks, but it's a lot more indepth than that. Sometimes it's a fixation on a specific body part, sometimes the girl just loves larger than life sex toys shoved in every one of her holes. Communication is key here, so once you get to a good trust level in the bedroom you should take it further with the kinks.
Posted on: Nov. 17, 2010