How To Prepare For My First Sexual Experience

By: Laura Townshend

Break Studios Contributing Writer

You might be wondering how to prepare for your first sexual experience because it's good to be prepared rather than flying off the cuff. With the various risks involved, investing the time prior to having sex for the first time will pay off in spades. You will also be able to relax and enjoy yourself!

  1. Use protection. The first thing you want to consider when you prepare to have your first sexual experience is using protection. Always use condoms. Become familiar with the various types of condoms, as they come in different sizes and types. You will want to choose a brand that has spermicide in case the condom breaks. Carry condoms with you when you go out or think you might have the opportunity to have sex. When you consider having sex for the first time, prepare for your first sexual experience by asking the girl if she uses birth control. Don't rely on condoms as a birth control method, but use them as protection against disease. Make sure she's on the pill or uses another form of contraceptive. Women have various options available, such as birth control patches, injections and implants; women can also use IUDs. Preparing for your first sexual experience is about taking care of yourself and the woman and preventing unwanted pregnancy or disease transmission.
  2. Talk with your physician. If you have any questions about having sex for the first time, make an appointment to see your physician. Most men don't do this, but there is nothing wrong with seeing a doctor. Women do so in order to get on birth control and to make sure they are physically healthy. Your physician can answer any questions you have and suggest what you can do to protect yourself from catching a disease during sex. This is also a good time to chat about what kinds of birth control are most effective for women.
  3. Talk with your girl. Talking with your girl is part of how to prepare for your first sexual experience. You've done a great job so far of taking good care of yourself prior to having sex, so it's also good to speak with the girl about what your expectations are, as well as discussing what she wants. Part of having sex for the first time is talking about prior partners, disclosing if you (or she) has a sexually transmitted disease and what will happen after intercourse. Do you want to be together? Is this a short-lived fantasy? Do you plan on hooking up and then dumping her? Is she in it for a hook up? If you talk about having sex for the first time, you will find there's a lot of ground to cover. Even with a simple hook up, you still need to ask about birth control and disclose any sexually transmitted diseases.
  4. Take your time. When you prepare for your first sexual experience, remember to take your time. Your partner will know it's your first time, so relax and have fun. You won't know everything about sex; no one expects you to. The worst thing you can do is get upset, feel foolish and inexperienced or be nervous. Relax! Once you've gotten past having your first sexual experience, it will continue to be better and better. Talk with your friends, read books about relating to women and have a good time.
Posted on: Nov. 18, 2010