What happens when a person is in a relationship, and suddenly, they realize that they might be in a co-dependant relationship. But to make matters worse, they find that they, or maybe their significant other is also suffering from PTSD. The circumstances change, and makes things a little bit more difficult.
In relationships that inhabit someone who has PTSD, and another who is co-dependant, the relationship is a never-ending circle of push and pull. The co-dependant person might find that they are more than willing to take the abuse that the person suffering from PTSD is granting. A co-dependant person will be willing to stay with a person who is mentally, physically, and or verbally abusive. They will have this optimistic light that shines through that tells them there is hope that this person will be normal again, and if anything they can help. So, indeed they stay.
There are two different circumstances that deal with a co-dependant person and someone suffering from PTSD. If the two people in the relationship have encountered the PTSD recently, for example, coming home from war; the actions of the person might be rapid, unexplained at times, and possibly more prone to fly off the handle. If a person is willing to stick through the relationship with the person coming home from war, they might be co-dependant already. On the other hand, they might just be trying to stick through the harder times with their partner. However, if they are willing to take the abuse in whatever form it may come in, they might very well be co-dependant. People who suffer with PTSD and people who are co-dependant are like magnets that attract. They thrive on helping each other, and breaking each other down. It is a vicious circle.
The second circumstance is a person who has suffered from PTSD for some time, and their partner is still by their side. If this person is abusive, as many PTSD sufferers are, then their partner is more than likely co-dependant. A co-dependant person is someone who is unlikely to stand on their own two feet, and they believe that if they stick around in the relationship, they will be able to truly help the other person. However, if the person with PTSD has been suffering from some time, and it is not related to something recent, such as the war example, it is likely that they have already received some kind of help. Knowing this, the chances of overcoming their current circumstances are low, and they may never change. In addition, if the co-dependant person is willing to stick through the ups and downs, the PTSD sufferer will have no real reason to change. The cycle continues.
As stated earlier, the pair are perfect for each other in terms that they attract and stick to each other. Nevertheless, it is a dangerous mix because the PTSD sufferer will likely take advantage of the co-dependant, and the co-dependant will never stop trying to "fix" their partner, or help them become the person they once knew, or the person they wish they were. Co-dependant people need to stand on their own two feet and have faith in their own jurisdictions within themselves. PTSD sufferers will have to get help, the right help, and believe in their recovery in order for it to happen. If this does not occur, the PTSD/co-dependant relationship will continue and run circles around the couple.