It is important to learn how to resolve control issues in relationships because controlling a partner in a relationship can be the gateway to abuse. There are many types of control issues that can occur in a relationship. Recognizing the signs of a controlling relationship is essential in order to resolve the control issues in a relationship. The partner that is conducting the controlling and the partner being controlled will both need to make changes. They must acknowledge there is a control issue before anything can be resolved.
- To resolve control issues in relationships, the controller must become self aware of their behavior in order to change. They must learn when they are excessively putting their feelings and wants over their partner’s. The partner that is being controlled must learn to become self aware of their behavior as well, such as when they are being too passive about a situation. Both must speak honestly and share their thoughts and feelings about a situation to negotiate a solution.
- Full responsibility for one’s actions must be taken in order to resolve control issues in a relationship. Both partners need to acknowledge and accept their role with the control issues. Once responsibility is taken for all actions involved a balance within the relationship can be made with proper communication and decision making.
- In order to resolve control issues in relationships, both partners must be willing to change. They must also believe change is possible. Both partners in the relationship need to believe the other can change and they can change themselves. By supporting each other and believing in each other, resolving control issues is possible.
Sometimes, it is best to seek professional help to resolve control issues in a relationships. A couples counselor can be very beneficial when it comes to overcoming relationship obstacles and moving forward to build a strong and healthy relationship.