How To Safely Meet Singles Online

By: Morgan Kierra Walton-McNeal

Break Studios Contributing Writer

Whether you are a seasoned online dater or trying it for the first time, you will need to know how to safely meet singles online. Online dating is quite popular, and hundreds of singles try it every day. With many websites boasting their success rates with couple matching, it's no wonder modern singles are so eager to give it a chance. However, much like dating in the real world, dating in the online world can present possible dangers. Keep yourself and those around you safe by following a few rules for online dating safety.

  1. When you're meeting singles online, don’t give a lot of your personal information. You may be inclined to tell a new friend all about yourself, and there’s nothing wrong with that. But divulging your address, the location of your workplace or your daily routine can be dangerous. You never know what the other person's plans are; you may be giving innocent details while your contact plans to abuse them.
  2. If you know someone is married, avoid her like the plague. The thought of an affair with a married person may thrill you, but it can be dangerous for you. If you meet someone online and she reveals that she is married, cut the contact off immediately. It may seem exaggerated, but her spouse may discover the affair and come after you. Avoid any dangerous situations with unhappy spouses by avoiding anyone who is married.
  3. Pay close attention to behavior. People give away little signs of who they are, and if you pay close enough attention you will pick up on them. If you meet singles online who do not respect your boundaries, get angry with you very quickly or seem to have a lot of “holes” in things they tell you, then you are probably dealing with someone who is hiding a secret. It may be large or small, but either way anyone who has these characteristics is not safe.
  4. Don’t give out details about other people. If you meet someone online who wants to know information about your friends and family, this may be a red flag. Basic information is OK, like how many siblings you have, if you have any children and other questions of that nature. But in-depth details about friends and family, like their workplaces, hobbies or details about where they live, could be a sign of someone using you to gain access to someone else. To be safe online, limit how much you say about the people in your life.
  5. Know the signs of a stalker. Sometimes things are more serious for one person than they are for another. If you feel as though the person you are talking to online is stalking you, discontinue contact with her. While some of her behaviors may seem innocent, constant emailing or pushing way too hard to meet can be intimidating behaviors. If she makes threats to you or herself, or threatens violence if she cannot talk to or see you, then you should locate the “contact us” option on the webpage and file a complaint. When meeting singles online you have to be ready to stay safe by avoiding stalkers.
Posted on: Aug. 14, 2010