How To Save A Marriage In Crisis

By: Mike Potts

Break Studios Contributing Writer

Knowing how to save a marriage in crisis is certainly not an easy task. Your marriage may be in crisis because of something that happened, or you and your spouse may have just grown apart over the years. Either way, you need to keep in mind that it is possible to save a marriage in crisis, no matter how difficult or challenging it might seem.

  1. Commit to each other all over again. To save a marriage in crisis, you and your spouse need to both be willing to work on the marriage and make each other the number one priority. You need to commit to your spouse just as you did on your wedding day and vow to stop at nothing to save your marriage in crisis.
  2. Get help sorting through the issues. You and your spouse may not be able to save your marriage in crisis all on your own. You might need professional help from a trained marriage counselor. The counselor can act as a mediator as you sort through the issues and set up a plan to move past them and save your marriage.
  3. Let go of negative feelings. Your marriage will stay in crisis if you harbor feelings of resentment, anger, guilt, fear or even loneliness. Stop associating your marriage with negative feelings. Focus on the positive aspects of your marriage to save it, as well as on the positive aspects of your spouse.
  4. Build back the trust you lost. You need to work on trust every day to save a marriage in crisis. Trust that your spouse has the same level of commitment as you do and that she cares just as much about saving your marriage in crisis. If you can’t trust your spouse, you may not be able to save your marriage.
  5. Never resort to pettiness. Picking fights over things that don’t matter, resorting to name calling or insults and using events from the past against each other are sure ways to never save a marriage in crisis. Remember that you love and care for each other and that you want to save your marriage. Remind yourself every time an argument starts or you get the urge to resort to pettiness.
Posted on: Dec. 01, 2010