How To Save Relationships
Learning how to save relationships can arguably be as much negative as positive. Yet while a relationship shouldn't ideally have to be saved, it happens from time to time. Here are some points to consider when saving a relationship is pondered.
- Does the relationship need to be saved? Perhaps the couple is not "meant" to be together. Identify the dynamics that are occurring, in order to establish a foundation for further growth - or perhaps an understanding that it might just be for the best.
- Get back to the basics. Consider why you and your loved one are together. What brought you together? This may be the starting point for finding a common ground, working through the current troubles, and establishing something to work towards.
- Communication is key. Talk about the situation in a non-threatening manner. Yes, this is where the "I statements" (describe what you are thinking/feeling in order to do so in a non-threatening manner) come into play.
- Talk about what happened and what the future holds. Apologize for your wrong doings and don't be afraid to stand up for yourself, reasonably and in control of yourself. If the relationship will be saved, change is likely necessary: describe how that can happen. This is something that is important in order to truly grow together in a relationship; ignoring the past or refusing to change might just put you into this position again.
- You have no control. Saving a relationship involves doing your best. If he or she doesn't agree or want to continue, you ultimately have to respect that.
Posted on: Jun. 14, 2011