How To Save Your Relationship From Ruin
If you are trying to figure out how to save a relationship from ruin, it is best to take steps from the very beginning to help build the relationship upon a strong foundation. It is important to note that not every relationship was meant to survive. However, many relationships can last if built strong and assuming both partners put forth efforts to maintain the relationship.
- Having good communication can help ensure a lasting relationship and help stave off relationship ruin. Your partner needs to feel comfortable confronting you if there is a problem, before the problem gets too big, and it is important for you to be able to confront your partner as well. While good communication can help partners bond and grow together, it can also reduce arguments, help arguments conclude, prevent jealousy, and improve emotional and physical bonds. Remember that your partner is not a mind reader, so if you are feeling a certain way or if something bothers you, you should talk to them about it.
- Jealousy can ruin almost any relationship, and despite a strong foundation, if jealousy is permitted to enter the equation you may not be able to save your relationship from ruin. Many believe that a little jealousy is good for relationships, but no one enjoys feeling jealous and this can actually drive your partner away. To avoid provoking jealousy in your partner, communicate how important he/she is to you on a regular basis. Additionally, reduce your contact with the oppose sex, which can prevent temptation for you as well as jealousy in a partner. If your partner does things that make you jealous, it is important to communicate this to him/her so they are aware of it and can take measures to reduce or eliminate that behavior or activity.
- Take care of yourself and your partner. Health and fitness can play a huge role in solid relationships. If both partners are active in taking care of themselves and each other it can feel as if a larger emotional investment is being put into the relationship. There is evidence to suggest that regular exercise improves libido, especially in women, and if partners are working out together this can carry over into their bedroom as well! Taking care of yourself and wanting to take care of your partner also shows a desire for a long-term relationship which can help make your partner feel more secure and loved.
- The moment you stop putting forth effort to keep your relationship from going to ruin, you run the risk of losing it. You don't have to make your relationship a full-time job, but effort should be put forth daily, by both partners. If your partner seems to stop putting forth effort, communicate your concern to him/her that the reduction in their effort feels like they are no longer interested in the relationship. Sometimes people grow lazy in relationships, putting great effort in the beginning that dwindles and eventually stops. This is not always a conscious decision so bringing attention to a sudden decline in your partner's efforts may help them see what is going on as well.
- Your partner's needs are important to keeping a relationship from ruin. You work, your partner works, life has stresses from all directions. Family stress can carry over into a relationship too. If your partner seems more stressed than usual, try not to harp on them about it but instead offer to help. Even if she just wants to vent for an hour about how horrible everything is, listen to her. Do not put too much pressure on a partner under stress, there is a time and a place for relationship pressure. By helping your partner through their stresses, finding low-key or relaxed things to do together instead of the usual night out with friends, for an example, can go a long way in helping your partner return to better stress control and help keep your relationship that much stronger. While it is important that both partners put forth effort consistently, it is equally important to know when you need to carry more of the relationship burden and help your partner through tough times or high-stress periods.