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How To Sex Up Your Life

By: Laura Townshend

Break Studios Contributing Writer

Consider yourself lucky if you want to know how to sex up your life. Sex is normal, healthy and a part of being human. If you've got a super girlfriend, be keen on keeping things spicy hot between you.

  1. Get past any hang-ups. The first order of business when you want to sex up your life is to get past any hang-ups you might have. Do you find some sexual acts to be taboo? Or do you think your partner may not be interested in the activities you enjoy? Sort through what you are afraid of, what turns you off and what you'd like to experience in the future. If you partner has sexual hang-ups, work through the process together. Talk it out, see a therapist if necessary and be willing to move to the next step when on your journey to sex up your life.
  2. Relax. If you want to know how to sex up your life, relax! If you're single, there's no reason to get in a tizzy because you aren't having the kind of sex you want. A great sex life won't knock on your door and it surely won't show up if you're tense, nervous or worried. If you're in a relationship, spend some time together where sex is not the focus. Have fun together in friendly but non-sexual ways. Relax. You've determined what your weaknesses are and you've moved past any hang ups. Take a deep breath and get ready to explore as you sex up your life!
  3. Explore. Half the fun of spicing up your sex life is exploring. When you want to sex up your life, exploration is the way to go. Remember the focus is on quality, not quantity. Since you've discussed how you want to sex up your life, begin the process. Start slow and small. Determine what feels good and what is a turn off. Exploration can mean fun dates that lead to sexy goodness. One tip to keep in mind is that for women, sex begins early. Flatter, tease and spread the love all day long. Your girl will be super responsive when it's time to have sex. Once you're in the bedroom, invite your partner to try all the new things you've talked about.
  4. Make it fun. If sex isn't fun, what's the point? As you explore and try new things to sex up your life, be sure to have a good time. If you're in the middle of a new sex move and your partner objects, try laughing about it rather than carrying on as if nothing happened or worse, getting your feelings hurt. Bring the fun of being a couple into the bedroom. If you're having a good time and keeping it spicy outside your bed, things will have no problem heating up once you're in it. Remember to laugh, share intimate moments and surprise each other. Do what it takes to make yourself happy and you will certainly have a great sex life.
Posted on: Oct. 29, 2010