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How To Spot Online Dating Scams

By: Christina Hall

Break Studios Contributing Writer

The good news is that it is possible to learn how to spot online dating scams. The better news is that there are a multitude of real, beautiful women who are looking for a nice guy to spend time with. Busy women do frequent legitimate dating sites, but scamming sites are the ones that are in your face when you happen to be most vulnerable. Being aware of scandalous marketing strategies that dating scams employ is a way to save your precious time and cash when looking to hook up online.  When trying to discern a real budding chance at romance from a blatant attack on your "nice guy" heart-strings, keep these tips in mind.

  1. Generic responses come from generic robots. After you sign up for a site and send a couple of messages to a woman who peaks your interest, pay specific attention to the detail of the responses you receive. Do they speak to you like a normal person, or do they sound like a dancer at the club selling you a not-so-personal private dance? Some men seem to go too far by demanding the women write something weird in the subject line of their return email or demand an answer to a random question. This weeds out the obvious scams, but the approach can come off as standoffish and paranoid thus decreasing your chances with any non-bot females on the site. It is best to thoroughly read into the answers, and then go with your heart on this one.
  2. Free sites are not the best deals. In fact, if an advertisement is flashing "free, free, free" in your face before you get a chance to read the fine print, you will probably be parting with a significant amount cash you did not intend and maybe some pride as well. You truly get what you pay for in the online dating world. If you are looking for a sincere matchmaking online service, you will most likely have to pay money upfront just like if you had sought the same type of service offline. Knowing the whole payment story at the beginning helps you to know what you are paying for. Also, if you notice after paying a nominal fee to continue communication on a site that the responses to your messages drop dramatically, suspect that a scam is in progress.
  3. The more professional the picture, the more paranoid you should be. Not cracking on beautiful women with nice profile pics here. Rather, the same advice stands true as in tip one. Let your instinct rule in romantic matters. If a woman looks airbrushed, she is either working with a company that has airbrushed her picture, or she may be really trying too hard to impress you. Whichever possibility turns out to be true, you are bound to run into a dating quagmire. Learning that it is indeed true that "looks can be deceiving" will save you from unnecessary headaches when trying to spot an online dating scam.
Posted on: Dec. 05, 2010