How To Stop A Break Up

By: Mallorie Greene

Break Studios Contributing Writer

Relationships are not easy and people are not perfect, but if you came to a crossroad with your partner and feel she is worth fighting for, learn how to stop a breakup. Not everything your partner does results in the end of the relationship as there different solutions for both parties to meet in the middle.

  1. Realize your woman is human. Every person has flaws and it can be annoying. Maybe she is an oversensitive woman about every little thing or has a problem keeping her mouth shut and the things she says embarrasses you. If you have a problem, do not get aggressive about her quirks; instead, calmly talk things out. Do not let the littlest thing become the biggest obstacle if you want to stop a breakup.
  2. Communicate your concerns. If you do not like the way the relationship is going, communicate your thoughts and feelings. Many people bottle their problems until they cannot take it and abruptly break up. If an issue is lingering in your mind, sit your girlfriend or wife down and discuss it. Remember to talk to the source of your problem, not family and friends, as most people give a biased view because they heard your side of the story.
  3. Show love. Showing love is a two-way thing and if you are doing your share and your partner is not, tell her. If it is the opposite, try to bring the flame back before a breakup happens. Send flowers to her workplace, massage her feet, compliment her looks or plan a surprise picnic. Appreciate the small and big things your partner does and expect the same in return. Relationships are about compromising and an equal partnership leads to a lasting relationship.
  4. Know the basics. Respect, love, understanding, trust and commitment are extremely important for any relationship to be successful and foolproof from a breakup. Learn to respect each other and maturely learn to disagree as everyone opinion differs. Show you are trusting and committed to do right and be honest. Good security in a relationship is what brings people closer and when problems occur, they learn to handle issues.
  5. Accept each other's character. At the beginning, people love their partner’s characteristic and the thing they love the most ends up what they hate the longer they are in a relationship. Be grateful for your partner and love who she is.
  6. Go to a counselor. Sometimes handling personal matters between each other leads to bigger problems. If so, it is time for a third party to step in. If you want to avoid a breakup, speak with a counselor and try to talk problems through without ripping each other's heads apart. As the counselor hears each side of the  story, the counselor may see a real problem that you might not even realize.

 

Posted on: Nov. 05, 2010