How To Talk Dirty In Bed

By: Jenn Arnold-Wieber

Break Studios Contributing Writer

Learning how to talk dirty in bed can be an exciting way to spice up your relationship. It can be a turn-on for both men and women. However, it can be awkward to bring up. If you aren't sure if your partner is into dirty talk, you can come off the wrong way if you say the wrong thing. Here are a few guidelines for successful dirty talk. Remember, this list is not intended to be a script, but to be taken as a starting point. You will be able to find your own style of dirty talk after you have had some practice. 

  1. "How does that feel?" This is a great opener for dirty talk. It allows conversation to be brought up in a relatively safe way. You will be able to gauge how your partner feels about talking during sex. If you get a positive response, you can proceed to the next step.
  2.  "I love it when you ____" Tell your partner, in detail, what turns you on. Tell her, specifically what you enjoy most about her in bed. Example: "I love the way you look me in the eyes while we have sex. It makes me feel so dirty." Your partner will take this as a compliment and will have more confidence in bed.
  3. "Harder!" This is basic, easy, and foolproof. Just saying "harder" really soft and breathy into your partner's ear will send chills up her spine. It doesn't matter what you are specifically doing in bed, this can be transferred to many different acts. 
  4. "That feels so good!" Tell her that whatever she's doing is really turning you on. Make eye contact and don't worry about sounding silly. Don't think too much about it, just act natural. Too much thought and you're going to sound scripted.

Once you've opened up the door to the world of dirty talk, you can move on to using more vulgar terms and more descriptive topics. Just remember, it's not really what you say, but how you say it. Hopefully these tips have helped you learn how to incorporate dirty talk into your love life. 

Posted on: Feb. 05, 2010