How To Tell Someone You Have Herpes
Learn these simple guidelines on how to tell someone you have herpes. Having herpes is not a death sentence, but it is a sexually transmitted disease and it can be passed to your love interest or partner. It is a consequence of the past, but you must face your partner and explain about this disease and explain in detail what herpes is. There are no perfect solutions, only people in an imperfect world.
In order to tell someone you have herpes, you will need:
- To have this talk before sexual contact
- To be honest and truthful
- To be prepared for both good and bad responses
- When Should You Tell Your Partner? The best time to tell your partner is before you or your partner are considering having sex, not two minutes before you are removing your clothes. It should be a time when you have decided that this person is someone you want to have a lasting relationship with and someone you want to share your secrets with. It is not necessary to tell every one who comes into your life.
- Learn as Much as You can First. You have herpes and yes it is sexually transmitted and you think you know how you got herpes, but what else do you know? You need to tell your partner a whole lot more than just, “Don’t worry I have herpes and it’s no big deal.” There are many websites online that will give you everything you need to know and there is a National Herpes Hot line also you can call. It is best to have some pamphlets or printed information to give your partner also.
- Find Quiet Place to Talk. This kind of news is best said in a very quiet spot, not at a restaurant with lots of people around. It needs to be a place where you can talk honestly and sincerely about who you are and what getting involved with you would entail. Start with, “Bob, (example) I have something I need to tell you.”
- Be Calm and Be Honest. First of all it is difficult to tell someone you have a sexually transmitted disease and it hard talking about the pain and agony you have experienced. Be honest with what happened and how you found out. You do not need to give names. Also explain that something good comes out of trials and tribulations and you have moved on to a better life.
- Be Positive About Life With You. Besides being calm, be positive. Talking calmly, honestly and with the right attitude will give your partner confidence in who he or she wants to be with. Herpes is a disease that many have. It is not an isolated case, but one that approximately 25% of Americans have.
- Be Prepared for the Worse. Although you may hope for a positive response from your partner, some may turn and run the other way. Give your partner time to absorb all the information, make an educated guess and then talk to you candidly. If your partner screams and hollers and gives a “Dear John” response, then you are indeed lucky that you know now and not down the road.
Having herpes was not something you planned on or intentionally created, but it is part of your destiny. Herpes can be controlled and treated with anti-fungal creams and natural remedies including cat’s claw, nigella sativa, aloe vera and colloidal silver. Herpes has become known to be related to fever blisters and prevention is the number one thing you can do. Abstain from sex when you are having an outbreak and protect yourself when you do have sex.