How To Tell Your Partner You Have Herpes

Learn how to tell your partner you have herpes. This is a difficult situation for you, learning you have herpes. Dealing with the fact that it’s possible you may have infected your partner with this incurable yet, treatable disease maybe a hard pill to swallow. Of course, you have to know this is not the end of the world. There is no prefect time or place to tell your partner you have herpes. Just avoid making it sound like the grim reaper is knocking at your door; it’s not a death sentence. Know the facts about herpes before discussing it with her.

1. Pick a calm setting. Don’t pick an intimate moment to tell her you have herpes that will freak her out and make her angry, and she may not want to hear anything else you have to say. When the two of you are just casually talking or having dinner, cool and calmly tell her you have something to discuss with her, but it’s nothing she should get worked up about; try to lessen the blow. Proceed to tell her you went to the doctor and found out you have herpes. Never start off by saying something like you have some bad news to tell her. She will start panicking before you get a chance to continue.   

2. Know the facts about herpes. If she doesn’t know the facts about herpes it’s up to you to inform her of what type of sexual transmitted disease herpes is and how it affects the body. So it’s important for you to do a little research; quickly before talking with her about this. Know the symptoms and signs of an outbreak from herpes.

3. Try to be reassuring. She may be very emotional of what this could mean for you and her. If this is a new relationship, she may not have any emotional tides to you yet. So she could also be scared of what she has been exposed to. Expect a lot questions some you may not wish to answer, but you owe it to her to tell her the truth and answer all of her questions and try and put her mind at ease.

4. Don’t be on the defensive. Regardless of how well you think you presented your situation, she will feel angry and maybe betrayed. So she may say some really mean and hurtful things. This would not be the time for a backlash at her. Be understanding of where she is coming from. This would be the same repercussion and consequences of her actions that she would receive from you, if the shoe was on the other foot.

5. She will need space. Give her time to process it all. If she tells you she needs to be alone for a while allow her that. Don’t call her, text her or find any other way of communicating with her. This could be very confusing for her and she may need to decide what her next move is with you or without you, but   don’t put any pressure on her to decide the future of your relationship. Because after she’s had time to think, she may come to the conclusion, that’s something you and her can try and work through.