How To Win Back My Girlfriend
How to win back my girlfriend first involves determining if the woman is worth the effort. If she is, then you must make a plan and stick to it. Emotions need to be put on hold during this period. Women go for the strong, resilient types or the quiet introspective romantics; women rarely go for a whiny crybaby. It's time to suck up your emotions and outline a plan to win her back. You'll need a few things to get the project done, including;
- Cell Phone
- Computer with Internet Service
- Develop a plan. Everyone claims that they have a system to win back your girlfriend, but in reality, every relationship and breakup is different. The first step in getting back your girlfriend requires you to sit down and figure out a few things about the relationship. Make a list of the things you like best about your girlfriend. Make up a second list about the things you miss most about her. These lists should be about her, not about you. It should be something like her smile or her sense of humor, not about how you miss her washing your clothes or sweeping out your car every Saturday. Once you have your list, figure out where you'd be likely to "bump" into her in the course of her everyday doings. If you have no idea where she'll be at any time during the week, you might have a clue about what went wrong in the relationship. Target your accidental visits, once each day, and put them on a calendar.
- Schedule your actions. After you have her movements shadowed, figure out if you want to approach her in person or by remote access, such as snail mail or email. A combination of both may be best. Select a few snail mail cards that say something light, such as "thinking of you." Don't get too gushy. Next, get out your calendar and write down a schedule of contact. You don't want to look like you're begging, so plan to send something at least once a week. If you're going for email or Facebook contact, you need to figure out when you want to send the message and what kind of note is appropriate. Work up a few ideas for the first email messages so they look polished and organized. You may want to sleep on the group until you feel you have the language you want to use down pat.
- Start slow. Don't get crazy with the messages and don't stalk her with the accidental visits. Follow your moderate schedule of planned communication. Think about your reaction; if your former girlfriend decides to give you a call, you need to figure out how you'll act when you take the call.
- Expect the long haul. Fill out your calendar for 90 days. If you only need fifteen, you'll be happy. Depending on the type of breakup, it may take a little longer to win back your girlfriend. She'll need to figure out the ways she misses you.
- Do the unexpected. Once your former, soon to be new, girlfriend makes contact with you, try not to slip into the habits that made the relationship fall apart. Go back and read the lists you made in step one. Determine if you're doing your part to keep the relationship going. If it's all one-sided on her part, step up and contribute to the relationship. If making the relationship work is all on you, you might want to reconsider the match.
Alexander, John. "Re-Attraction: How to Get Your Woman Back in 30 Days or Less." John Alexander Enterprises, Inc. 2009.