How To Win Love Back

By: Sidney Johns

Break Studios Contributing Writer

Learning how to win love back can save you a lifetime of heartache. Sometimes after a break-up, the emotions still run strong. The pain seems to never go away and all you can think about is the one that got away. It's these times in life that we need a few skills to win her back. Remember that sometimes, no matter what we do, the other person will not be receptive. If they have moved on to someone new, or started a new life in some way, you may have to simply face that they are gone.

  1. Look at what went wrong. Before you can win love back, you need to figure out how it got away to begin with. What did you fight about? What was the last straw? What was your part in the break-up? Once you figure out what was wrong, you can make an approach to fix what is broke. If a habit of yours was too much for her, you can break it.
  2. Make contact. To win love back you must first reconnect with her. Sometimes this is simple, other times it may be a difficult task. If you have mutual friends, ask them about her. It is almost guaranteed the conversation will get back to her. An email simply saying "was thinking about you" can also break the ice. For the more traditional girl, a post card with a simple "hello" is a good ice breaker.
  3. Show her that you have changed. When on a quest to win love back, telling the love of your life that you have changed is not enough. They need to see you in action. Once again, mutual friends can be a big help. If you used to stay out all night, intentionally show your friends that you like to go home early by excusing yourself at a reasonable time. Mention to them how your former love hated the habit, so you decided to change.
  4. Execute a conversation. After the ice is broken, proceed to win love back by initiating a conversation with your ex. Do not push the subject of getting back together, but let it flow naturally. After a few conversations, ask her out on a date. Let her know you want to start fresh.
Posted on: Nov. 26, 2010