If someone you know is seeking treatment for a recovery, you'll likely want to learn how to write a letter to someone in rehab. It's very important to compose this letter sensitively and thoughtfully. No matter what the addiction led the person to do in the past, seeking rehab is a courageous act, and encouragement is needed during this extremely difficult time. Follow these steps in order to write an appropriate letter to someone struggling through the rehab process.
- Decide what you really need to say to the person in rehab. If it's negative or angry, consider whether you can wait until the person is further into recovery. You don't want to stress someone out who is in rehab any more than they already are. Save confrontation for later. It's not that you can never let the person know how he has hurt you; he ultimately must take responsibility for what he did within his addiction. Yet, angry and hateful letters have no place in early rehab. The last thing that you want to do is to derail someone's rehab process.
- Remind the person is rehab of all the things that you admire about him, if at all possible. Because people who end up in rehab have often deeply hurt the people who love them the most, praising someone in rehab can be a challenge. Yet, consider the fact that your letter has a power. The letter has the power to help or hurt its recipient at a very delicate time in the recovering person's life.
- Talk about all the wonderful things that you and the person in rehab can do together in the future. Reminding the person of all the joy that lies ahead of him outside of rehab is ideal. Someone in rehab often needs that help to keep perspective. The fact that there are a lot of joyous, fun and amazing things to do in life that have nothing to do with the former addiction can help someone stay motivated to complete his rehab.
- Make an informal list in your letter of all of the things that the person is achieving by staying in rehab. For example, making his parents happy or proud. You may reiterate that he is now taking care of himself.
- Enclose stories or clippings of people who have succeeded at recovery. Enclose the stories of celebrities who have ten or more years of sobriety and a really happy life.
- If you have any experience with the twelve steps, you may share your own experience with them.
- Send along a small gift as well. "The Serenity Prayer" is often a part of rehab, and you may include a copy of the "Stronger Than Before" CD by Olivia Newton-john, which includes a song version of the prayer. It's an inspiring song for rehab.
- Say how much you love the person in rehab. That's very important. Someone who is hurting needs to know that he is loved.