How To Write Love Letters

By: Sandi Harrison

Break Studios Contributing Writer

Maybe you just broke up with your love interest or just got engaged, in either case you want to know how to write love letters regarding your relationship. Before you start writing your love letter, set the mood. Have a picture of your love handy, have romantic music on the stereo, relax, and think of all the good times. Remember your love letter will be regarded as a keepsake, so use your best efforts to make it memorable.

  1. Never type a love letter. Love letters are very personal and it is important that it portrays the fact that you cared enough to take the time to write it in your own handwriting. Use a nice pen (not red, blue or green) and some pretty stationery (cream or white) to give it a more personal touch. A little perfume or cologne on the paper might not hurt either!
  2. Create a romantic setting before you begin writing. Turn the lights down low. Put on some romantic songs that you have shared with your love. Get out some pictures that bring back memories of times you have shared. Feeling romantic can help you find the words to write in your letter.
  3. Be sure to date your love letter, use a familiar salutation, and check your punctuation and spelling. Misspellings, words crossed out, or wrong punctuation can take away from the beauty of your love letter. Use expressive words in your letter. You might want to write a draft of the letter first and then edit it before writing the final letter in your best handwriting. Wait a day between drafts in case you want to add or delete something. Remember this letter will probably be read over and over again throughout the years.
  4. Start out the letter by giving the reasons for writing your love letter. Don’t be timid. Let your love know why you are writing and how much you truly love them. Do not hurt their feelings or belittle yourself. Be sure what you are writing is clearly stated and not confusing to the reader.
  5. Let your partner know the reasons why you feel in love with them. Some of the things you could write about is when, how and why you feel in love with him/her, how much you miss her/him when you are not together, special moments you have shared, things you have in common, special qualities that he/she has, and how you can’t imagine your life without him/her.
  6. Your love letter should express deep feelings. Being casual, light-hearted or erotic will take away from the deep feelings you are trying to convey. Your letter should be sincere and heartfelt. You could even write a short poem or quote one of his/her favorite poets.
  7. Close your letter by saying something that may sound a little sappy. Your love will treasure it and read it over and over again. Something like “I will dream of you tonight, my love.” Sign it off by saying “All my love” or “Yours forever.”
  8. If you have memorabilia from a special date, enclose it in the love letter. Maybe you have tickets from a concert you attended, or petals off some roses he gave you for Valentine’s Day. Enclose them in your letter to bring back memories of a special night.
  9. Hand-address your envelope. It is more personal to address the envelope by hand. If you are mailing it, put your stamp on upside down which is a custom that says “I love you.” Find a really nice stamp to put on the letter.
Posted on: Nov. 28, 2010