How You Know The Kiss Is Perfect

By: BWalter

Break Studios Contributing Writer

How do you know when the kiss is perfect? We don't want to alarm you gentlemen, but women base a lot on a kiss. More specifically, your first kiss. It's been said that they can judge the outcome of an entire relationship based on your ability to deliver that perfect kiss. We know it sounds pretty silly to base a relationship on just a kiss, but a lot of women do this. Hey, we didn't make the rules. You could be the perfect guy but be slightly lacking in the kissing department. All of a sudden you're snubbed by the girl of your dreams because your kiss was less than perfect. Sucks doesn't it. So, It's important that you give her the perfect kiss. Contrary to popular belief, kisses don't just happen. Purposely giving the perfect kiss is very possible. You can make sure the kiss is perfect if you follow these guidelines.

  1. Make her want it. The perfect kiss does lie in your overall kissing technique, but you shouldn't overlook the importance of creating a want in her. So, how is this done? The good news is, she's probably been wondering whether or not you can kiss anyway. Like we said earlier, lots of women base an entire relationship on your kissing ability. Once you get to that comfortable level with her, i.e. lots of hugging and physical contact, it's time to plant the seed in her mind about your kissing ability. Here's the thing to remember: some women have rigid "no kissing on the first date" rules and a number of other unwritten guidelines they go by. And, every woman is different. Your job here is to get her to forget her personal parameters. So you need to be paying attention. It's your job to get her comfortable enough with you to get close enough just to tease her. Yes, tease her. Women are known for dragging mens' minds through the hoops, but this time it's your turn. When the time comes (you'll know when it is), you guys will be close to each other, then that romantic magnetic pulls you together. Now, normally guys will just jump on her lips. You however, will lean in really close and stop. It'll drive her nuts. If she wanted to kiss you before, your stock just skyrocketed now.
  2. The kiss  If you did step one correctly, you're well on your way to giving her the perfect kiss. At this point you guys should be centimeters away from touching lips. That slight pause you gave has got her mind racing. When your lips do meet, it'll be a mutual meeting. Now it's up to you not to turn her off. Here's where instincts come into play. You have to pick up on the kissing style she likes. Not many women like to have their faces eaten. Your best bet is to give her a soft peck initially, but don't pull away. This is a dance you want her to lead. after that original sample, if she likes you, her lips are coming back for more. It's up to you to read what she likes at this point and deliver. If she's aggressive, be aggressive. If she's softer, compliment her. Don't overpower her.
  3. The rhythm. You'll know the kiss is perfect if you guys have created a kissing rhythm. This is a little harder to explain. When you kiss, your movements should compliment hers and vice versa. If you get to the point where your tongues get to do the tango, then you've succeeded. Since we brought up the tongue thing, here's the one thing you need to know. Be playful not sloppy and remember to follow her lead. It's important to do what she likes.  If you feel awkward at all, then you're probably doing it wrong.
  4. The important stuff. The most important element to all of this is that she needs to be comfortable. Becoming a great kisser is all about giving her what she wants. If you pay attention to her actions she'll give you the clues you need to get the job done. You're more than capable of  delivering the perfect kiss
Posted on: Jul. 04, 2010