Questions To Ask A Girl On A First Date
At a loss for questions to ask a girl on a first date? It can be tricky to get to know someone, especially if you aren't sure how shy or outgoing that person may be. It's important not to push a girl past her comfort level, especially on a first date.
- Where did you grow up? This may sound like something from a bad movie, but it's one of the best ways to get to know someone. Find out if she has brothers, sisters or pets, and whether or not she's close with her family—it will provide insight to her personality and allow you to expand on any subjects that come up during the conversation.
- What are your hobbies? You'd be surprised how many men forget to ask this question and it's one of the best ways to find out if you have anything in common with your date.
- Did you play any sports or do any activities in high school? This is another question that will help determine what you two have in common. Plus, it will let you know more about her background and personality.
- What did you want to be while growing up? Are you still working toward that goal? This is a better eye-opener than "What do you do for work?" since you will be getting some inside information on her hopes and dreams, even if they haven't panned out like she wished.
- What are your turn-ons and turn-offs? This does not mean that you should try to emulate them. Don't pretend to be someone you're not. Keep the conversation light and humorous to avoid any discomfort if you don't necessarily make the top of her list in this regard.
- Have you done any traveling? Share your own travel stories and talk about places you'd love to go if you had the chance.
- Do you like to dance? Go bowling? Play mini-golf? These types of activities might not come up on her list of hobbies, but they're great places to plan a second date!
- What do you like to read? Watch on television? Favorite movie? Any of these pop culture type questions will let you know what kind of sense of humor she has and opens the possibility of the two of you enjoying them together.
Some rules to follow regardless of what questions you are asking:
- Remember to respect any boundaries and drop any subjects she seems unwilling to discuss.
- Don't just rattle off questions; listen carefully to her answers.
- Don't be afraid of tangents. The best way to get to know someone is to let the conversation progress naturally. Go with the flow. See where the conversation takes you.
- Contribute to the conversation. There needs to be some give and take. She doesn't want to tell you her life story and go home knowing nothing about you. It will help lower her defenses and allow you to connect to her.