The Rules For Online Dating
If everyone understood the rules for online dating then things in the online dating world would flow very smoothly. Many people try online dating and the reasons are all different. Some people have not found success with the old fashioned way of meeting people. Some people enjoy the thrill of meeting someone on line and others just need a new pool of people to date. There are rules for the traditional methods of dating, and there are rules for online dating as well. It’s better to know the rules before you embark on an online dating journey because it can be a stressful and sometimes expensive process-most sites charge a membership fee. Keep these rules of online dating in mind as you begin the process.
- Anything you write in your profile or “about me” section should be true. One of the biggest deal breakers in any relationship is dishonesty. It is difficult to handle how to react to finding out your potential or current partner has been embellishing the truth but it’s a lot easier online to cut off a budding romance with someone because you have never met. So be 100% honest with every bit of information you give. If you absolutely cannot bring yourself to revealing that you are the head fry cook at McDonalds, and you live with your mother at the age of 35 then just don’t put it. You can tell the less appealing facts about yourself later.
- Once you have made a connection with someone, don’t keep secrets. All of the not so pretty details you left out of your profile should be revealed when you make a connection with someone. It may be difficult, but you do yourself a favor by telling things early on. If you wait until later in the relationship, or the secrets end up being “discovered” rather than willingly told, you will probably end up losing the person for good.
- Don’t be pushy, move at a pace that is comfortable for both of you. Everyone adjusts to relationship pacing differently. So while you may want to meet right away, someone else may be wary and prefer to wait a while before a meeting. If that is the case then be understanding and respect their request. Don’t constantly ask when you can meet. After your first request for a meeting, don’t mention it again. Wait for them to tell you that they are ready.
- Don’t lie through your profile picture. Your profile picture is the first thing people see. Prospective partners deserve to know what you look like. And they deserve to know what you look like currently, not two years ago, before the stressful divorce. So make sure your profile picture is recent and looks like you. If you don’t have one, then take one and make sure you show your personality. While a picture of you in a smoking jacket with a pipe in your mouth may look sophisticated or cool, it says something about the type of guy you are and it may not say the something you want. Your profile picture is your first impression, make it a good one.
- Once you think you have found a winner, let the other ones go. This is one of those times when dating in the online world closely mimics dating in the real world. When you are still in the dating scene trying to find “the one” you may be seeing a few different people, but it does not take long to narrow it down. It works the dame way online. You may be casually talking to multiple people but at some point you need to narrow it down, and soon after that, you need to zero in on the real potentials. If things work out well then you will find one person you really connect with, once that happens you need to focus the bulk of your attention on them. That means taking a few steps back from everyone else, and it’s ok to be honest and tell them you have made a connection with someone but would like to remain casually in touch, if that is the case.