Signs Of Abusive Relationships

Read this article and you too will be able to recognize the signs of abusive relationships. An abusive relationship is defined as any relationship with a pattern of abusive or coercive behaviors that exert power or control over another person. Abuse is not just physical; it can be mental, and sexual as well. It does not matter what type of abuse a victim is suffering, there are several signs frequently exhibited in an abusive relationship that can be easily recognized.

1. Control. In a relationship, if one partner has complete control it could be a sign of abuse. Abusive partners control many aspects of an individual’s life such as clothing choice, money, time, etc.
2. Isolation. Often times, a sign of an abusive relationship is isolation. Abusers isolate their partners and do so by prohibiting them from visiting friends and family or limiting their time together. Visits may start to become less and less frequent. The victim being abused may even begin skipping school, work, and other events that take him or her away from their partner.
3. Mood swings. In an abusive relationship, the abuser may demonstrate mood swings. They may become impatient or easily angered one moment and the next become loving and sweet. These mood swings cause the victim of abuse to become overly cautious and fearful, this is largely due to the fact that there is a great deal of uncertainty of what will set the abuser off.
4. Jealousy. Jealousy is another sign of an abusive relationship. The abuser may begin to accuse their partner of infidelity or complain when outside interests take time away from the relationship. The abuser might start to constantly check in or question where the other is and whom the other is spending time with, even when time is spent with friends and family.
5. Disrespect. In an abusive relationship, an abuser will attempt to undermine their partner’s self-worth and self-esteem. They will do so by using both publicly and privately, harsh criticism and displays of disrespect such as name-calling. An abuser might also dismiss the feelings and contributions of the other.
6. Blame. In many abusive relationships an abuser will place blame on their partners. They will manipulate the situation so that it will seem as though their partner forced them to behave in an abusive manner. The abuser will tell the victim of abuse that their behavior is a direct result of the latter’s actions and decisions.
7. Violence. One sign that a relationship is abusive is violence. An abuser may cause physical injury to their partner. Obvious signs of violence include bruises, wounds, and broken bones. But not all physical injuries are as easy to recognize. Sexual violence or shaking does not leave overt marks on a victim. Watch out for frequent injury or injuries that do not match the description of the accident.

If you have come to the realization that you are in an abusive relationship, seek help to stop the abuse or leave the relationship. Remember that your safety and happiness matter more than retaining a relationship with the person abusing you.