Things Not To Say During Sex
Here are some things not to say during sex. The key to a great sex session between two partners can be communication. Not all communication is good communication though. Be careful what you say during sex with your partner. Saying the wrong thing even playfully might hurt your partner's feelings and result in a less than satisfactory sexual experience for both of you .
- Don't remind your partner of past failures. If you want your partner to perform sex acts on you that you enjoy, don't remind her of any sexual failures in the past. Adding just a little bit of doubt such as mentioning your partner having stage fright or not performing up to expectations might end the session quicker than you hoped. If you have been walked in on by a child, don't bring that up to your partner. That apprehension might be just enough to kill the mood and reduce the enjoyment of your anticipated sexual escapade.
- Never compare your partner to an former partner. You aren't going to be able to convince your partner to do a certain sex act just by saying "well, so-and-so used to do it". You are likely to get a response such as "well, if you liked it that much with so-and-so, why don't you just go and find her to satisfy your needs."
- Avoid mentioning celebrities during your sex session. Don't compare your partner to a celebrity, unless it's in a positive reference. Even if you intend it in a positive way, your partner might misinterpret what you have said and it could kill the mood. Your attention should be solely focussed on the person you are with at the time. Mentioning someone else in bed, even if it's someone you have no chance in the world of having sex with, can make your partner feel insecure.
- Don't insult your partner. Making comments such as "well, ten years ago you could go a lot longer than that" or "you used to be able to do that position when you were younger", is not likely to improve your sex session. If you have concerns about your partner, discuss them at another time before you get into bed. Bringing these issues up while in bed could make her feel uncomfortable and less likely to meet requests that you might make of her during your sex session, it could even end the session much before you wished.